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Child custody can quickly cause conflict during divorce

Even though divorce is understandably tough on two married individuals who cannot make their marriage work, it can be particularly confusing and difficult for the children of the individuals as well. The decisions that parents make during the divorce process, especially with regard to child custody, can have a long-term emotional impact on their children. Some tips may help to make the life transition brought on by divorce a little easier for children in Connecticut.

First, it is expedient for two divorcing parents who cannot seem to get along to avoid using the children as their messengers. This can cause huge amounts of stress on their kids. The children often end up favoring one parent and turning against the other, thus perpetuating the adults' warfare mentality.

Also, sometimes after two parents fight for primary custody and one parent wins, the winning parent lords this over the losing parent. This can cause the noncustodial parent to experience anger, shame or depression, perhaps to the point of not even wanting to see the children anymore. This ultimately hurts the kids. This is why the person who has primary custody would be wise to try to give the ex-spouse as much time as appropriate with the children.

One way to avoid the conflict that often surfaces during divorce litigation involving child custody is to negotiate or mediate a divorce with proper legal guidance. This process puts both parents in the driver's seat of their divorce, enabling them to come up with a mutually beneficial parenting agreement in Connecticut. The advantage of effective mediation or negotiation is that both parents' wishes are considered, the best interests of the child are given the utmost attention, and the parents can learn to communicate in a productive manner -- an ability that will prove beneficial as they co-parent in the years ahead.

Source:, "11 Ways to Help Your Child With Your Divorce -", Margaret Rutherford, Dec. 29, 2015

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